Mountains and Valleys

Introduction | Mountains and Valleys


The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.
He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
he refreshes my soul.
He guides me along the right paths
for his name’s sake.
Even though I walk
through the darkest valley,
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies.
You anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.
Surely your goodness and love will follow me
all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord
forever.

—Psalm 23, NIV

Psalm 23 became a metaphor for the type of shift I would need to make in my own life. I was on a mountaintop, but I was quickly headed toward the valley. At the beginning of Psalm 23 David describes God, telling us who God is. The Lord is my shepherd. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside quiet waters. He refreshes me. He guides me. David is talking about God. But when he gets to his valley, David changes from talking about God and starts talking to God. You are with me. Your rod and staff comfort me. You prepare a table for me. You anoint my head. Your goodness and love will follow me. On the mountaintop, it’s easier to talk about God, isn’t it? We shout out that the Lord is good. The Lord has done this for me! But when we find ourselves in the valley, we come face-to-face with God, and our language shifts. We need an intimacy with God deeper than we’ve known before. We need to rehearse to ourselves and say out loud to God, “You are with me, God. You comfort me, God. You defend me, God. You bless me, God.” This is how we take each step through the valley. I had to stop talking about God and start talking right to God.

You might wonder why I would want you to know about my story. Why would I want to share my journey when it means admitting that I don’t have it all together? The reason is because I believe with all my heart that vulnerability and authenticity are the only way to find wholeness in Jesus Christ. We’re not meant to gloss over or skim the surface, pretending our way through life. Jesus invites us to be real with him and with one another. Within the following pages are stories of my depression, despair, burnout, and shame. I’m not here to tell you that followers of Jesus will always have big houses, pain-free living, and all the happiness in the world. It’s just not true. I’m not here to tell you that leaders, regardless of the scope of their public platforms, have it all together and never suffer pain, loss, or sadness. I am here to tell you that I believe in the holistic, healing love and salvation in Jesus Christ, who walks with us in the valleys and brings beauty from ash heaps again and again and again. I am here to tell you that I have been on the mountaintops and in the valleys, and I have discovered that we need a reset in our souls. We need to share stories so that others will too. When we’re free to be real, that’s when the real joy comes.

I have to tell this story because there are so many people who are suffering in silence. It’s not just people who lead churches. I’ve sat in secular leadership training groups with business leaders, heads of universities, civic leaders, and executives of nonprofit organizations. I’ve sat on boards of directors with many public leaders who in private moments can’t wait to share with me the pain they are feeling in their own lives. Many of these persons are members of some church. We haven’t done a good enough job in the church of being a safe place for vulnerability and authenticity. We put on our church clothes and paint on our smiles, pretending that we’re all okay as we praise and worship, only to drive away with the same heavy burdens and struggles we walked in with.

I believe that until we create churches that allow for more authenticity and transparency—where it’s okay to not be okay—and people can honestly tell their stories, we’ll continue to hear about burnout, stress, depression, anxiety, suicides, exhaustion, and breakdowns. I’m sharing my story because I want to chip away at the stigma around mental health in the church and faith communities. I want you to know my story, to know where I’ve been and where I’m at now so that we can begin a journey of healing together. I believe that healthy congregations create healthy people and healthy people create healthy congregations. I believe that the core of discipleship is wholeness. I believe in a God of holistic salvation, that God is concerned with saving every aspect of our being—our bodies, our souls, and our minds. I hope my story inspires you to recognize where you are right now, where you want to be, and how to avoid the pitfalls of trying to be everything to everybody. I’ve discovered that people need a place to be vulnerable and authentic, to know that they are not alone, whatever they may be going through, and that all of us play a role in helping to make churches that kind of safe space.

This runs counter to what we expect and experience in most churches. We think success looks like lots of people showing up, prominence, an environment free of conflict and baggage, tons of programs and activities, where everyone is happy all the time. That was true for Genesis UMC. We were a celebratory place, full of joy and exuberance—new and fresh. I remember a Genesis church member who approached me once to tell me that she was leaving our ministry because our worship experience was too joyful. She didn’t feel like there was a place for her to express her sadness, so she had to leave. We need places where we can name where we are. We need to create spaces for people to say out loud they are feeling sadness or fatigue, brokenness, or whatever valley they are walking through.

The Bible gives us a roadmap to wholeness. It starts and ends with Jesus, just as this eCourse will. I’ve discovered that there are many examples of persons in scripture who have found their way through depression, anxiety, and burnout—who have walked through a valley—and found themselves in the embrace of God’s relentless love for them and who have lived into God’s vision for their lives. We’ll look at the experiences of David and what he has to teach us about depression. We’ll look at the actions of Mary and Martha to see what they can teach us about stress and feeling overwhelmed. We’ll look to Elijah for an examination of exhaustion and burnout. We’ll study Job’s life to learn about grief. We’ll explore Judas’s and Peter’s responses to Jesus’ arrest to see what they might teach us about shame, fear, and vulnerability.

This eCourse is a call to reset and regroup. It’s an opportunity to name that we’re exhausted, overcommitted, chronically fatigued, and depressed; we’re working too much; we’re ashamed; we’re afraid; we feel alone; and we need Jesus. Jesus shows us how to live and how to live life abundantly. I must confess that as a leader, there have been times in my ministry when I’ve drifted and gone off course. I’ve carried burdens that didn’t belong to me; they belonged to God. I’ve carried people’s problems that didn’t belong to me; they belonged to God. I’ve carried unrealistic views of how others thought a leader should behave, think, and act that didn’t belong to me; they belonged to God. I’ve carried hurt that I should have given to God. I’ve carried the weight of unrealistic expectations when I should have given them to God. I was operating in my own strength instead of accessing the kingdom resources that are available to me.

Jesus says in Matthew 11:28-30, “Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly” (The Message).

My prayer for you is that you will slow down long enough to discover Jesus’ unforced rhythms of grace. Jesus offers us a way to live, to lead, and to love that does not end in burnout. I’m convinced that wherever you are on your journey, this eCourse will empower you to allow the work of God’s transformation to become a reality in your life.

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